When it comes to motivating behaviour, it is undeniable that fear is a strong motivator. But why does it work? And what does it actually do?
Regardless of whether your child wins or loses, you’re winning right? They’re at sport… but how do we handle bad sportsmanship?
Ironically, it’s when we stop throwing our authority around and focus instead on building our relationship with our children that they begin to feel safe. We become trustworthy and our influence grows.
I asked, “How did Abbie feel when you did that?” Her reply: “Sad”. I asked, “What is the best way to help her feel good?”